The art of not being an emotional sponge
Have you ever entered a room filled with people who transmitted a certain type of energy and left the party feeling all down and antsy?
I’m sure it happened once, twice, or maybe more. These feelings were not yours but you kept on feeling them for a few hours (or days?!).
These moments when we land in a space and our energy field merges with the collective one. These moments when we don’t completely lose our authenticity but forget about it because the collective flavor is stronger.
We are human beings, and we are emotionally intelligent. We have the capacity to feel and understand what others are going through. We have this thing called empathy that allows us to create a nurturing and uplifting environment for the ones we love when they feel down.
It’s natural.
What we do have, too, is discernment.
We are meant to live as part of a group, but we are also meant to consciously grow in a way that supports not only the group but also ourselves.
So how do we do that without constantly falling into the collective soup of emotions?
There are these mornings when I wake up, start to get on with my life, and find myself in an incredible rush. I start to tick off my to-do list as fast as possible, anticipate work, be a perfect housewife, a perfect mother, a perfect friend, send a gazillion text messages to my friends to make sure they are doing a-okay and find myself in a tiny little anxious space where I am not entirely sure what I am running to and mostly why.
I wake up feeling the collective adrenaline.
Maybe you have felt it recently with the change of season, Aries season, and all that fire floating around. Maybe you’ve heard about the meaning of this season and you’ve listened to everyone around you say it’s time to "go go go" and "jump into the newness of life", and maybe you’ve pushed yourself to feel these feelings when, in reality, do you really feel that way? In reality, when you tune in with your precious Self, what you want right now is time to integrate this hardcore crazy-coco-loco winter season and let the dust settle gently before jumping.
So why didn’t you acknowledge your very first desire to integrate rather than jump? Why did you decide to push yourself to the limit and go to that fiery party?
You are not weak. You are not too easily influenced.
You just haven’t tended to your energetic hygiene.
Your energetic hygiene is how you make sure that you don’t become an emotional sponge. It’s the art and science of listening to your inner feelings while still making space to listen to what is happening around you. It’s the subtle dance of understanding whats yours and what isn’t.
In a world where we are bombarded by words, opinions, images, symbols, news, and frequencies, we find ourselves lost in the middle of the noise, not knowing anymore how to tune in with our inner Self. Not knowing anymore what we really want.
And yes, you have two choices to fix that:
Become an hermit—cast yourself away from the world so you’re sure that what you feel is YOURS and no one else's.
Clear the energetic noise around and in you—and still continue to be part of this world while embodying your most authentic self, because honestly, we need you.
Now you may ask, "But how do I do that, Sophie?" — and that, my friend, is a great question.
I could give you a hundred methods to tend to your energetic hygiene, or you could go online and get the information by yourself (and you’ll find many), but I am going to give you one single tip that seems oh-so-simple and oh-so-annoyingly true, but in reality, it will demand from you the biggest effort possible: to be present.
I know.
It seems easy.
In reality, it’s hard.
My favorite astrologer, Jules Ferrari, recently said in one of her workshops something like, "A strong and healthy collective starts with healthy individuals."
Before starting to change the world and radically revolutionize the way we move, do, and create, what about we start by dusting off everything that doesn’t belong to us so we can walk in this world with the most healthy and personal frequency possible?
Imagine if the next generation walks this world knowing what is theirs and what isn’t. Imagine if our children knew how to create healthy boundaries so they could access their creative power in the most authentic way possible.
Imagine this world, where we no longer merge and melt into other people's emotions while still honoring everyone and mostly honoring our creative selves.
Imagine.
I am hosting on Sunday April 9th a Class about Energetic Hygiene in which I will share my personal tips on how to clear our energetic field when it has soaked a little bit too much collective noise, how to decipher when we are acting upon other’s energies rather than ours, what are the hooks, the stagnant entities that can be stuck in our auric field and easy practices to implement in your daily life.
Replay is available.
